Recently I have had the joyous occasion to have several days on little to no headache. I still have the nausea and pressure in my head, ringing in my ears, but that weighty headache let up. I simply can’t help but think that my brain is plotting its revenge on my for not entertaining the normal amount of pain. For me it has been nice to go to church and not fake smile (much) and enjoy a day of pedicures and shopping, even dress up to go to therapy. It hasn’t even really mattered that other things hurt, the headache subsided.
Sure as the sun will rise, I will get another headache. Probably sooner than later, but hopefully later because life is pretty nice without that burden. Now, I know this probably sounds kinda wild coming from a Christian as I should probably be believing that God is going to miraculously heal me. If course I believe He can. Still, if I am more valuable to the world in this state of being, then I will use it to spread awareness and help other people.
I suppose my point is that anyone can be afflicted and we shouldn’t use religion to brush away common sense or medical treatments. We are each free to make our decisions, but we have no right to dangle carrots in the faces of suffering people. Religion is not a baton to beat someone who is down. The ultimate goal should be to love and encourage one another. Most importantly, to listen to one another so we can now what they are feeling.
I know when I am feeling a headache coming on. No one has the right to question that, or my faith, or anything. I have spoken to so many people who have walked away from church or organizations because they were not heard. People spread their own ideas of how you can be healed or what you are doing wrong and it feels terrible to be seen as someone who isn’t even helping herself. I hate it. I know other people endure it and probably hate it too. Just know, it is ok to educate people and to walk away if they choose not to learn. It is ok to stop someone mid-sentence and let them know they are too far across a line already. It is ok to stand up for yourself and straight out tell people exactly where they are messing up. You are not inferior to anyone, so you are not required to stay and listen to nonsense.
You know your body, and if it is showing signs of being overworked or tired, listen to it, not to people. These are the same people who will complain about their own back when you ask them for piggy-back rides because you are tired or in pain. They want the best for you but they don’t know so just shut them down and tune them out. It’s healthy and they can maybe learn about you with the added bonus of being quiet.
If you are the one scratching you head and mumbling about how you are just trying to be helpful, just relax. The most helpful thing you can do is let your friend who is hurting talk and don’t act like you know more about their condition than they do. Be a friend, not a doctor. We know your intentions are good, but your degree in anything but neurology disqualifies you from giving cound medical advice to someone who has had brain surgery.
I know it seems harsh, but the reality is, being up front with someone in the beginning is easier than trying to fix it later. If you have a worthy relationship, this will not harm it, but it will make it better because you will understand each other more. We should grow in our relationships, and that can hurt, but it is worth it!!
All this being said, I feel the telltale heaviness inside of my head that precedes a headache. I expect I will wake up with one but I hope that is not the case. If it is though, I have had an awesome few days and I can live with that.